The shower. . .

The shower. . .

To shower, or not to shower? That is the question. The answer my friends is YES!!! You’ve had to jump through so many hoops to get to this moment, with no sex involved. So you’re going to have god damn partay!!! Let’s not forget ladies, you’re not actually preggers, so you could wear a ‘mum to be‘ sash, swig on a bottle of Bolly whilst zero judgement is passed.

If you find yourself in a situation (like myself) You will most likely be sending your shower invites with 72 hours notice…..yippee. You need someone in your corner, ready to emotionally blackmail all friends and family into cancelling all other plans, attending ladened with gifts and good-wishes . Enter my sister, she was simply fantastic. You won’t have time for insta perfect shower prep. You will be in the Aldi que stockpiling nappies, wipes and those cute mini bottles of Prosecco. *Note you will get so many more gifts then your average mum to be, people just love a good news story.

When it comes to gifts and decorations, a little more thought will be required. UK retailers are hardly fit to burst with adoption goodies.

“Hi, it’s 2020. Just Wondered if you wanted to start selling helium Balloons for ALL KINDS OF FAMILIES?!” (Thats me, shouting at all the retailers)

I did find a great Tee I wore on the day (see above) (although I had to get this shipped over form America) I also wore this for my social media adoption announcement. We received a beautiful adoption record book @littlepicklememories which meant the world to me, I was sick of scurrying past the good old ‘my first year‘ books which seem to miraculously grow legs and start chasing you round the shop when you can’t have a child. It’s full of gorgeous pages for you to complete such as 1st month in your forever home & 1st Birthday with us. Another beautiful gift idea is to find a bear or fictional children’s character that has also been adopted and has a relatable story for your child, Nemo loves his precious Paddington bear.

Theres still so much scope for games, I loved the advice for parenthood cards, @gingerrayuk they apply to any aged child. *You will find yourself frantically flicking through these whilst on your third, mini Aldi Prosecco bottle.

When it comes to a cake ‘welcome to the world’ or ‘congratulations on your baby boy’ might not suit the situation, Nemo was 21 months old when he came home, I’d like to think he’d seen a bit of the world by then. We went for ‘together as one’ because thats how we felt about our new unit. We were now one.

Evolution of the adoption shower

It’s been seven months since I first started my blog, this post was one of my first pieces. I’ve been on a relentless mission ever since to raise awareness and provoke a change in mindsets so what’ changed?

Well I’ve, ah hem started my own clothing and accessories range meaning you can get an adoption shower or announcement tee without having to spend hours searching the world wide web because it really shouldn’t be that hard. http://www.shopnotafictionalmum.com

https://shopnotafictionalmum.com/collections/grown-up-range/products/nfm-grey-adoption-shower-day-tee

I’ve kicked up enough of a stink to get the UK’s leading online greeting card destination to listen and have worked on a selection of adoption cards the aim being that cards are more readily available and accesible. http://www.thortful.com

Small business’s want to advocate for inclusivity;

https://www.instagram.com/little_bakely/

Right, hold the phone. I was gifted a box of these adoption shower iced biscuits from I opened the box and was blown away! They are utterly gorgeous, just visually they would look beautiful, I’m not exaggerating they taste like how I imagine the first drop of morning dew on a blade of grass in early spring would taste. * Tad dramtic, seriously good biccis though. Little Bakely is run by a gin lovin muma called Lucy, a business owner who wanted to make sure she was recognising all routes to parenthood.

https://www.instagram.com/onceuponatimekeepsakes/

As soon as I found Nikki’s beautiful business page I had to message her, this exceptionally talented lady creates bears, quilts and cushions to hold onto special memories, made from clothing. I actually remember letting out a little squeal in my kitchen, I wanted to find something special for Nemo during introductions, something he would treasure forever, something that might help him during one of the toughest times in his little life, leaving the security of his foster carers and coming home. Sadly, I didn’t actually find this bear when I really needed it but I have now. Nikki made Nemo the most beautiful bear made from the youngest clothes I ever got to see him in. “I missed so much of his life, I wasn’t prepared for just how much I would struggle to come to terms with that.” She can even personalise these gorgeous little fellas with the date you were matched or met, she even added the exact time. “I remember taking his sheet from his cot at his foster carers, placing it on his new bed so he had the comfort of their smell.

That’s why I released that squeal;

These bears can be made from bedding, clothes any keepsake material she even managed to add some of Nemo’s little knitted jumper he was wearing whilst filling up his paddling pool the very first time he saw his new home.

New business’s on the horizon

https://www.instagram.com/pick.your.party/

This beautiful business have launched an entire range dedicated to adoption celebrations! The ‘adoption party box’ is ideal for celebrations at any stage of your journey including; Approval panel, matching panel or family celebration day among lots of other lovely pieces this includes adoption balloons, cake topper and banner. Just gorgeous!

There’s also a ‘they said yes box’ such a thoughtful idea and thinking about it ….. why the hec shouldn’t we be throwing the Mother/Daddy of all parties * Excuse the pun on the day we’ve just been told we’re going to become just that! This box is perfect for approval or matching panel celebrations.

I’m just annoyed they didn’t exist two years ago.